回复：迷迷糊糊的疱疹系列研究----先从感叹开始
看看这个老美的劝慰我们的文章， 真的感动。 她是一个健康人， 男朋友是疱疹战友， 她知道他有疱疹， 然后从朋友发展到恋人。 没有在意这个病毒， 结果感染了。 很痛苦。 过了一段日子， 自己想的非常开， 心态真好。 你们看看人家是怎么走过来的。 要学学人家的心态
对了， 如果对于复发超过一年十次以上的战友， 天天吃药valtrex 可能就是国内的盐酸伐昔洛韦， 是有必要的， 天天吃不间断， 看看有没有效果。 如没有效果， 就停， 有效果就吃继续吃下去， 此药还是经过医学界的考研的， 相对是安全的。
迷糊
I understand what you're feeling. There was a time when I had those same feelings about myself. Fortunately, I had someone (my giver, who is also the love of my life) to help me see past them. I hope you find someone soon who can help you, too.
In the meantime, there's another way of looking at this. People see us as the personna that we project. If you feel unworthy, or unlovable, or bad about yourself in general, that is what people absorb when they're around you. They see you as you see yourself.
It's hard to pretend you're feeling good about yourself when you're not. But when you look in the mirror, the person staring back at you is still the same. Your eyes are the same color. Your hair is still the same. The same heart still beats inside you, and the same dreams still live in that heart. Everything that was good about you before is still very much intact. The essence of you hasn't changed, and that is what someone who loves you will see... not herpes, but a beautiful person who they care about, and want to be with, imperfections and all.
My partner and I were friends long before we became lovers, and I knew he had herpes. But you know, when we became lovers, his herpes wasn't even a factor. I never even thought about it. All I knew was that I loved him and, no matter what, I wanted to be with him. We never used protection or took precautions, and eventually, I was diagnosed with it, too. Even though I'd known all along he had it, it came as a shock, and I felt really bad about it for a couple days... cried, moped, the whole thing. He felt terrible. But then I realized that... okay, I've got herpes, but I've also got this wonderful guy in my life, who loves me, and thinks I'm really something special, so what have I got to be sad about? I'm actually pretty damned lucky.
My point is, you think you're confined now. You think you can only date other people with herpes, and that if you transfer this to someone you care about, it will ruin their life forever. That's not so. Someone who loves you isn't going to care, because to them, herpes is not going to define you, or even enter into the equation of who you are. All they're going to see is the beauty you emit from inside, and the comfort of being close to you. And if, by chance, you do tranmit it at some point (although there's a good chance you may not), it will become one more thing you share, and nothing more.
Yes, by all means, disclose before intimacy, but never let yourself believe that herpes makes you any less than who you are, because it doesn't. And anyone who truly cares for you, beyond the superficial, will see that, and see the light that shines inside you, just as I saw the light in him. Don't be afraid of yourself. You know, for many people, there are worse things than getting herpes from someone you love... like missing out on having them in your life. Some things are just worth the price. I know this to be true. Don't sell yourself short.
